American Woman Sends Adopted Son Back to Russia

[Lily_Kaelar]

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/21134540...57361#36457361

Terrible, isn't it? Personally, I love the accent...I would have kept my adopted Russian children plus it's the right thing to do. I love kids anyway so long as they aren't mean.

Heard about this in Choir class today, looked it up and found this video. Opinions?

[StingX]

Re: American Woman Sends Adopted Son Back to Russia

Assuming what I heard is right, the agency told the woman that there was nothing psychologically wrong with the child, only for her to find out that he's a total nut, and threatened to kill them and burn down their house and shit.
The woman got screwed, and the adoption angency should get in trouble. Lawsuits are basically out of the question though, as it's nearly impossible to sue someone internationally.

The woman is at fault too. The way she handled the scenario was bad. If it were me, I'd consider psychological help first. However, even before that, I would adopt inside the country to prevent such things from happening.

Bad scenario all around.

[Lily_Kaelar]

Re: American Woman Sends Adopted Son Back to Russia

Kids here can be just as messed up, though. Especially the ones old enough to talk.

I would adopt internationally or not, doesn't matter to me. Accents are cool. And I would love to give the kids better lives.

I plan to adopt in the future. One from here, another from somewhere else.

I met some adopted Ukrainian girls at Bible camp. They're very nice people for the most part. One of them kept borrowing things and stalking this one skater kid, though. And the other had a brother who made fun of me a lot because I kept hanging out with this one gay kid the whole time.

Adopted kids are a mixed lot. Take it from this guy:

Life is like a box of chocolates...you'll never know what you're gonna get.

Just hope you'll get some nice kids, and that you can make a difference in their lives so that they will be happy. That's all I really want.

[StingX]

Re: American Woman Sends Adopted Son Back to Russia

Yeah I know...
It's really gray because on the one hand it should sort of be like that, that you live with whatever you get.

But really, I don't see a problem with "shopping around" with adopted kids. I think that you should get to know a child before you adopt them, to make sure that you will get along. Which is another issue with international adoption.

[Lily_Kaelar]

Re: American Woman Sends Adopted Son Back to Russia

I would probably go to the country myself to look. And hopefully I would find one who I can be friends with as well as take care of, you know?

Maybe an older one, too, but I would make sure they were psychologically okay first. Older kids rarely get adopted, but they need a home as much as any other kid does.

[Glanni's Girl]

Re: American Woman Sends Adopted Son Back to Russia

I don't think particularly ill of her, but if her own biological child went, for want of a better word "nuts" then I bet she would persevere with care.
How old is he? Under 13?
Also, is she married? If so, why is it "the mother" rejected him, rather than "the family" rejected him?
I hate watching the news, it's all about fear and anger.

I think that you should get to know a child before you adopt them, to make sure that you will get along

Right.

[Lily_Kaelar]

Re: American Woman Sends Adopted Son Back to Russia

It's like the late 1800s all over again...

[LazyTownWW]

Re: American Woman Sends Adopted Son Back to Russia

i won't take any sides here, it's just a very complicated situation...I just think people shouldn't go arround adopting kids if they are not ready for it.
And since I don't agree with abortion too much, I think people shouldn't make kids if they'r just going to get rid of them...not even by accident.
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Did I read something about BIBLE CAMP ?!

[PolarFox]

Re: American Woman Sends Adopted Son Back to Russia

Not so terrible how it can be.
Only fail of this woman.
She dont know about our liars in our orphanages.
Perhaps they thought - "it's for kid happiness, she adopt him, and all be OK" . Maybe they wanted to get rid of the kid.

But now we have a big scandal - "that bad woman, kicked out this little kid!", etc etc etc....

Don't know, maybe it's true - because she is escaped now, but another true - our liars.
Their guilt much greater. Maybe it's ONLY their guilt.

[StingX]

Re: American Woman Sends Adopted Son Back to Russia

But now we have a big scandal

Who is "we"?

[Lily_Kaelar]

Re: American Woman Sends Adopted Son Back to Russia

i won't take any sides here, it's just a very complicated situation...I just think people shouldn't go arround adopting kids if they are not ready for it.
And since I don't agree with abortion too much, I think people shouldn't make kids if they'r just going to get rid of them...not even by accident.
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Did I read something about BIBLE CAMP ?!

Agreed....but imo I think if it's a teen that can't take care of it, she should give it away if she seriously can't take care of it.\

And yes...yes, you did. I am only agnostic, but...Bible camp is still very very fun :3

And it's cowboy-themed...though I dislike all things country and cowboy-related.

[Lily_Kaelar]

Re: American Woman Sends Adopted Son Back to Russia

But now we have a big scandal

Who is "we"?

The world in general

[PolarFox]

Re: American Woman Sends Adopted Son Back to Russia

Yes, "we" there - peoples of the world.